Book I finished and loved!
Attached: The New Science of Adult Attachment and How It Can Help You Find- And Keep- Love
I seriously loved this book! It was a fast read and I learned a TON about myself. I am for sure an anxious attachment (I mean, I like to believe I am secure, and perhaps sometimes… but in general, realistically, probably anxious). Here are a few quotes to pique your interest:
- “The study demonstrates that when two people form an intimate relationship, they regulate each other’s psychological and emotional well-being. Their physical proximity and availability influence the stress response. How can we be expected to maintain a high level of differentiation between ourselves and our partners if our basic biology is influenced by them to such an extent?”
- “Understanding attachment will change the way you perceive new people you meet, but it will also give you surprising insight into your partner if you are already in a relationship. In dating situations, your thinking will shift from ‘Do they like me?’ to “Is this someone I should invest in emotionally? Are they capable of giving me what I need?’ Going forward with a relationship will become about choices you have to make… Uncovering your partner’s attachment style will allow you to better understand the particular challenges that you face as a couple- an essential step toward using attachment principles to improve your bond.”
Whether in a relationship or not, I think this book is an absolute game-changer!